Being a man, I cannot help but to share the following with my fellow men.
I have come to realize that indeed we only live life once, but the life that a man lives, he liveth not for himself but for others. It is sad to know that most men have lived this life and died without anything, neither a child nor a property.
It is true that the best thing that can happen to a woman is to get married. What about a man? I have with time understood, that marriage though an important phase of a man’s life, is not and cannot be the best thing that can happen to a man.
To most men, including myself, marriage is the hardest work one can find on earth, it becomes extremely hard when you have a child or children to take care of. As the man of the house you are solely responsible for everything, I mean everything; ignore what women say.
Many men are fathering children they aren’t responsible for, and those that they are responsible for or gave birth to, these children hardly appreciate the sacrifices we made for them while we lived.
I will encourage a DNA paternity test by all men after child birth, except in clear cases where some traits are evident enough to confirm your paternity of the child.
Again know the woman you marry. Find out where the woman hails from. Whether she is from a patrilineal or matrilineal family. This identification is very important for two reasons:
First, if the woman is from a patrilineal family, it means that every child you have with her is automatically part of your (the man’s) family. At least this gives the assurance that if you loose all your properties to your wife upon divorce or death, you are assured that your children will become your heirs being direct members of your family.
Secondly, if the woman is from the matrilineal family, which means that any child you have with her is automatically part of her family, be careful and wise enough to have a good connection with your child and to take them to your hometown occasionally, else upon your death, your children, your properties and your investments may be directed into the wrong hands, the family of some other persons, your wife, but not your own family.
A man’s life is well lived when he has a supportive wife who respects the man’s family, who allows their children to have a feel or connection with the man’s family, so that after the man’s death the children will be regarded as being part of the man’s family also.
Men are born to suffer. I believe this is our biggest suffering.